Introducing Monday Polls

Hello all!

First of all, I’d like to wish you a happy Monday and a happy spring! (even though it;s hailing in Washington, lol nature).

If you follow me on Instagram, then most of you will know that last week I had mentioned something new was coming to the blog..and this is it! Continue reading “Introducing Monday Polls”

Annaleaz

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What is your name and occupation?
            Annaleaz De La Torre-Fennell, Graduate student and small business owner of Two if by Seam
Why do you think women judge each other so harshly?
            In general, people judge to others to make themselves feel better. Women have fallen into judging because the majority want to be the “ideal” woman, who is portrayed by media and perpetuated by other women and men. However, we all realize that there is no way to be this “ideal” woman and to compensate for our shortcomings, we judge others to make ourselves feel that much closer to “perfection” rather than understand that our differences are what makes us perfect.
What do you think young women need to hear more often?
            As a female, we do not need to live up to anyone’s expectations but our own. Whether it be for a friendship or a relationship, we should never change our standards and our brains for anyone. Be you through everything.
What do you think is your best quality?
            Perseverance. The amount of times I have been called fat, ugly, worthless, too smart, never going to do anything, weird, so on, have not brought me down. Each comment made to me has helped me push on rather than be a reason to give up.
What accomplishment are you most proud of?
While getting my masters degree in business and engineering so young is a success, I am most proud of starting a business at 20. It has made me learn to network, market, and push myself to constantly learn outside of the classroom.
What advice would you give your younger self?
            Impossible is a state of mind. Through hard work and often rather large amounts patience, every goal can be met, in one way or another. Just because it gets tough doesn’t mean to give up. Keep pressing on.
How do you find ways to be happy?
            I dance and sing around my room. I also craft, often. I’m an old lady in a 21-year-old body.
How do you learn to love yourself more?
            I make sure the people I talk to and choose to be around don’t put me down but encourage me. They also help me put things in perspective for me. Also, I have a fantastic boyfriend. He helps keep me positive and not put myself down.
How do you think other girls could learn to love themselves more?
            Honestly, girls need to believe in themselves and not lower standards for anyone. Just doing this has limited my regret in my life and I am proud of my decisions choices, making me love myself more one choice at a time.
       Is there anything else you would like to add?
For any of those girls that love the sciences or math, keep it up! Multiple guys have told me that smart girls are intimidating. That’s not true. Be yourself and some guy is going to not just like you for it, but love you.

Meet Paige

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Hi there! My name is Paige, I’m 16 and a junior. I’m a pre-professional dance and I work at an art museum.

What would you like to do when you graduate?

I’d really like to dance, whether it’s in a small company or off-broadway, that’s the dream!

Why do you think women judge each other so harshly?

I think it’s to make themselves feel better! I mean, if someone says to themselves something negative about someone else, it automatically brings up positive thoughts about themselves. People just want to feel good about themselves, they’re just going about it in the wrong way.

What do you think young women need to hear more often?

I think that they need to hear that life is tough, but you can still be kind! It’s hard to get to where you want to be, but you don’t have to “step on everyone” to get there.

What do you think is your best quality?

I think I’m really compassionate towards helpless victims; animals, people affected by violence etc.

What inspired you to become the person that you are?

My family is very arts-oriented and I was really lucky to grow up in such a great environment.

What accomplishment are you most proud of?

Just becoming the person that I am. I’ve overcome depression, eating disorders and self harm and I’m very proud of my recovery.

What advice would you give your younger self?

To try not to be so hard on myself! Not everything is the end of the world- try to find the good in things.

How do you find ways to be happy?

It’s really the little things that matter the most to me. A really nice day, seeing a friend unexpectedly, etc.

Ranting & Raving: Finding Your Happy Place


Hello everyone, today I wanted to talk about finding your happy place, and why it’s so important.

So last night, I had a wonderful girls night out at this little French restaurant and it inspired me to write this post. My friend and I were talking about how happy we are now that we’re both in Seattle. And I was sitting there, just thinking about how happy I really am. Over the past two years, I had been in a dark place. I lost sight of who I was, and had stopped putting myself first. It’s crazy to see how wonderful my life has become in just a short three months.

So this post is for all of you who have lost sight of yourselves. I’m here to tell you that it does get better, that nothing is permanent. I am so incredibly proud of myself for being so brave and strong and for accomplishing all that I have in such a short time. I’m not the same person I was three months ago, I’ve improved. Change is a good thing.  I’ve surrounded myself with people who love and support me with every endeavor I do.

If there’s one major thing that I’ve learned, it’s that you must  create close bonds with people, with friends and family. I constantly keep in touch with my family, even if it’s just to talk about something dumb that happened at a coffee shop earlier that week it’s still great to tell them that I love them and that they’re always in my thoughts. As for friends, I’ve met people who have been nothing short of incredible. These people have been so welcoming and friendly, treating me as if they’ve known me their whole life.

So as I’m sitting here, in this charming French restaurant, I think of all of you, wanting you to find your happy place. I’m with a friend of I’ve known for years, in one of my favorite environments and I think to myself, “wow.” I’m surrounded by laughter, twinkly lights, and a gorgeous view of downtown Seattle. 

Everyone needs to and deserves to feel this happy. I keep telling everyone that this is the happiest I have ever been in my life. I want to share this feeling with everyone. If I could tell you exactly what you need to do in order to be at your best and happiest, I would. But it’s different for everyone. So here’s what I will say:  Go on adventures,  smile more, laugh more, be kind to each other, throw all your fears away because they’re only holding you  back.  Cut ties with people who only poison your soul. If they don’t change your life for the better or bring anything good for you, you have to let go. It might be hard, but in these circumstances you need to be selfish. This is your time to shine babe. No one should have the power to hold you back. Be free, be young. Live your life. The oppportunites are endless once you realize your value. You are worth more than you know, more than you think. Believe that you deserve the best, because it’s true. There’s a saying that says your vibe attracts your tribe and it’s so true! The longer you live a life where you feel unhappy, stuck or lost, the longer you’ll have to deal with people that won’t help push you forwards. Live your passions! Do everything you’ve always wanted, the world is your oyster.
Make a change.

Until next time,

Chloe.