Tess

May 1st, 2016- Tess

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Hi! I’m Tess Levin, 20 years old, and I am still a student. I go to University of Southern California (Fight On!) and I am studying Marketing and Psychology.

Why do you think women judge each other so harshly?

That’s honestly a great question. I think that society has wrongly taught us that we need to be better than someone else to succeed in the world. It has taught young women that if someone else is beautiful that they cannot also be beautiful. Our lives as women have turned into a constant competition with one another to make ourselves feel worthy of the word beautiful.

What do you think young women need to hear more often?

I think we need to tell young girls that they matter to the world. That they don’t need to listen to the media. They don’t have to be a size 0, 5’10, and exotic to be beautiful or to make a difference in the world. Each and every one of these young women are perfect and contribute to the world, making it a better place. We as a society need to show young girls that there is much more to themselves than what is on the surface.

What do you think is your best quality?

Hmmm, I’d have to say my best quality is my intolerance. I know everyone just read that with a perplexed look on their faces (lol). But honestly, I don’t tolerate disrespect or impolite actions or words. I think its an amazing quality because it has allowed me to surround myself with the people that only want to build me up rather than tear me down.

What inspired you to become the person that you are?

I would say that everything I have encountered growing up has molded me into the woman I am today. My own experiences as well as those of my friends. I would say I am observant and like to learn from other people’s lives as well as my own.

What accomplishment are you most proud of?

My greatest accomplishment has been starting my own cupcake business. I started it my Senior year of High School. This is my greatest accomplishment because I was quite young but it was rare to see a young woman have drive to start her own business. Society sees it as a rarity even when older women become successful in the business world. I loved this part of my life journey because I wanted to inspire others to chase their dreams and break gender barriers as well.

What advice would you give your younger self?

Wow I could write a novel about all the advice I would give my younger self. I think the most important piece of advice I would give myself would be to just love myself. It is cripplingly difficult to love yourself in a society that told you that there was always something to improve. But fuck society! Love everything about yourself. Your hair, your toes, your stomach, the way you wheez when you laugh. Literally love every bit and piece of you because you are beautiful inside and out.

How do you find ways to be happy?

I feel like that has really been a struggle in my life. I think a lot of us have dealt with sadness and not really knowing how to get out of that state. For me, it was all about making time for my hobbies. I loved to bake, hang out with friends, read, write, and watch TV (it is almost criminal how much TV I watch). Even if it was just for 30 minutes or an hour I made time in my day to let myself enjoy a simple pleasure.

Is there anything else you would like to add?

I would like to say that I am publishing my first novel Fall 2016! It is titled Forever Waits. It is a young-adult romance novel and I would love for everyone to keep an eye out for it! You can follow my journey on my Instagram @tess_levin and WordPress: misstesseliot.wordpress.com and I would love to speak to every single one of you about anything on your mind.

 

Also a big big thank you to Chloe. You are inspiring and I love that you are here to empower women and make a change. You will truly make a difference and I can’t wait to see what your future holds! Thank you for interviewing me and letting me be apart of this!

2016 Goals

I can’t believe it’s 2016 already, but I love this time of year. It’s such a great time to get inspired. For this year, I still want to encourage kindness with women. I want us to stop spreading hatred and cruelty among one another. It’s so sad to see this unnecessary rudeness.
One of my new mottos is “Hide the hate, Spread the love”.
I figure that you should try to conceal any negative emotions you may have, especially if they will negatively affect someone else. There already is enough hatred in this world so why not try to spread more love and make this world livable?
We need to stop comparing ourselves to other people. It’s not healthy and it won’t get us anywhere. It can be hard to not be envious or jealous, but don’t be. Women aren’t born to hate each other, or put each other down, they are taught it. I am going to make this year and every year more positive by doing what is best for me. Recently, I have reached out to women I admire. I continue to send out compliments, no matter how big or small they are, they are always appreciated. Just remember how it feels when someone says the like your outfit, your makeup, or your nail polish color. The littlest of words can change someone’s entire day. It’s all about attitude. Instead of being envious, let women inspire you. Whether it be studying abroad, traveling, being confident, whatever the reason! And let your idols be realistic. Become inspired by women locally, not what you see splattered on the magazines or Internet. Be realistic and surround yourselves with friends who are going through the same things your going through.
At the end of it all, people won’t remember if you were valedictorian. They won’t remember who you dated or how popular you were. They’ll remember what kind of person you were. Spread the love, be kind to one another, and be happy with your life. You are responsible for everything in your life. If you aren’t happy, you can change it. Life is too short to live unhappily. You have the power to do anything you wish to make you happy. Aim for the stars. You can get that degree, get that promotion, run that extra mile. It’s all up to you. This is your year girl, own it!

Happy 2016 to all you lovely people, I look forward to writing more soon.

Nasty

People are nasty. Not all of them, don’t get me wrong. But others-wow. They’re rude, senseless, nosy and try to bring you down. I’m a pretty sensitive person so it’s hard not to let hurtful words get to me.

What you have to realize is, half of this cruelty is happening indirectly, via Internet or word of mouth. With this generation that is drowning in technology, many people lack courage and bravery. There is no way they could say half of this nastiness to your face. Because if I hear something, I’ll confront the person and almost one hundred percent of the time, they get embarrassed. People don’t want to own up to that behavior because they know it’s wrong. All in all, you must remember to be the bigger person, even when it seems impossible. Always, always, always be classy. It is way more rewarding to live a life where no one can speak ill of you, let alone find dirt on you.

Yes, I’m looking at you, Kate Middleton. You flawless lady you.

Until next time,

Chloe