what’s wrong with women’s sizing?

It’s been a hot minute since I’ve done a ranting and raving post, and considering my recent discoveries with inconsistency with women’s sizing, I figured this would be the perfect time to vent about it- especially because I’m sure many of you would be able to relate.

Since moving up to Washington 4 years ago, my body has definitely changed in shapes and sizes. I was roaming around Seattle eating some of the best food I’ve ever had. It’s been a journey for me to process it (or accept it), because it’s been so new for me.

Because of these changes, I’ve started to notice the inconsistency in women’s sizing. And I’m not gonna lie to you guys, when I was trying on clothes with no luck, I was getting extremely discouraged.

I’ve been a size 6 regularly, but I only shop at Target (and occasionally on Amazon). So, without me realizing I was being naive, I was shopping for the same size at other retailers.

I don’t want to say that my body shape is unique- I’m not petite, but I’m not plus size, and I am moderately curvy. It seems that retailers don’t understand that people come in all shapes and sizes.

Even with keeping that in mind, it can still be difficult or discouraging to try on clothes that make you feel so little about yourself. It seemed to sting me more because I have been regulating workouts into my daily routines this year pretty consistently. I was proud of myself for enforcing a healthier lifestyle by working out 3-5 times a week.

I’m not meaning to brag in any way, but if any of you can relate, then I know you’ll understand-or feel my pain. Body confidence really isn’t that easy to obtain. You can feel like you’re killing it at the gym one day, then the next you go try on clothes at H&M and feel a lump in your throat when you try on a pair of shorts that won’t go past your hips.

I vented to my friends about the situation, with tears rolling down my cheeks. I felt frustrated with how emotionally difficult shopping had become. I felt defeated, weak, not enough. Nothing felt or fit right, and I was growing tired of not feeling pretty.

Eventually, I toughened up, and haven’t thought about shopping since. To be fair, I haven’t been able to go out shopping because I’m currently quarantined, but that’s besides the point. I didn’t let this put a damper on my spirits for long thought, I’ve continued to work out and I’m still looking for clothes online in the mean time.

Also, in relation to sizing, why does every damn pant have to be a skinny fit? I know fits like bootcut and other exist, but not every fit is flattering for shorter girls like me, just like skinny fit isn’t fitting for every body type.

Just trying to squeeze curvy thighs into slim fit pant is nearly the equivalent of getting a workout in-all that hopping around and flailing about.

I wish normalcy was actually normalized. There’s all the advertisements and campaigns showcasing body positivity and inclusion, however we’ve yet to see the sizing reflected in stores. It’s like they’re saying : be your best you, be confident, but we’re not going to provide flattering clothes or the means to do so.

This is a new journey for me, but I’m eager to not let it control me. I can share more about this journey, if you guys are interested. I’m excited to see what great new brands I’ll find that will make me feel like my best self.

Remember, that every body is a bikini body; there is no ideal body shape that you need to conform to. You are fine as you are.