We’re Just Fine

Hello there readers, and welcome back to my blog! For today’s post, I’m going to be sharing with you an inevitable conversation all couples experience once they’ve been together for a few years. Now this conversation could take place at any social gathering, whether it be a holiday party, family reunion, birthday party, etc. There will be a moment when you and your significant other are having a nice time, socializing with others, when BAM. You’re hit with the beginning of an annoying conversation with the cringe-worthy question, “when are you guys getting married?”

You’re probably taken aback by it, thinking “Damn Karen, where did that come from?” But, I guarantee this isn’t the first time you’ve been asked that. See, people tend to be bored and restless with contentment. Life is a lot like Hollywood where people obsess over scandals: who had an affair, who is pregnant, who had a meltdown, etc. The only reason people try to pressure you into situations is because they’re own excitement tank is running low, and they’re desperate to live vicariously through someone else.

I’m also trying not to throw a lot of shade, but I have had a lot of *personal experiences* with this subject and particular question lately. My feelings fluctuate, from laughing it off, to getting annoyed, then back to laughing. If we’re being completely honest, it’s really no one’s business other than mine and Kolani’s. Some people might not really mean anything by it when they ask, but it’s a little nosy.

The past couple months, we’ve dealt with a lot of inquiries as to the status of our future together. Considering it was right around the holidays too, this shit was like trying to avoid traffic in Seattle (can’t do it). A small part of me thinks it’s a little sweet, because I feel like people really like Kolani and I together, and they’re rooting for our next big step together.

What people really don’t seem to understand is that we’re happy and fine just the way we are. We don’t need to be married to have any validation of our feelings towards each other, or to prove something to anyone else.

I feel like a lot of people don’t realize what it means to get married. They want the perfect venue, gorgeous dress and seemingly perfect day. But that’s a wedding, marriage is something completely different.

I just want people to be happy, and to let others be happy. Everyone does things in their own time and that’s perfectly okay.

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This has been a chloscall. Until next time, Chloe.

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