I got an enormous amount of positive feedback on my last Ranting & Raving post, so we’re just going to keep this ball rolling and do some more r&r!
This week, I want to talk about love and relationships. Ah yes, love. What has seemingly been something romantic and meaningful now appears as light and replaceable. If you look around at couples of all ages, you’ll definitely see some differences. What really irks me about love, relationships, or even marriage today is the fact that no one seems to take it seriously anymore.
People are getting married straight out of high school and then boom, divorced barely a year later. People want to get married just for the wedding not the actual marriage. In no way am I saying divorce is wrong-I completely understand the need for it. But it’s the hunger for attention to get married when you’re not ready is what’s frustrating. When you’re getting married so young, it’s all a title-an illusion to show others that you’ve “made it”. Don’t get me wrong, I more or less believe in marriage and have nothing against it, but couldn’t there be other ways to show it?
Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but I always felt like when I got married, that would be it-I’d be in it for the long haul. If you don’t allow yourself to fall in love with you first, how could you possibly expect to love another, or let them love you? Finding happiness within yourself is key, because no one should ever be the only thing that makes you happy. It’s not fair to have that dependence on another person. Of course you want them to make you happy, but you know what difference I’m talking about.
Relationships will always be far from perfect. You guys will fight, annoy each other, need space-and that’s fine. If you think that it’s going to be rainbows and butterflies all the time, I’m sorry to disappoint you. Relationships are give and take, and most importantly, compromising. No one is ever going to always get their way, it isn’t realistic. If you don’t learn how to compromise, the relationship will be doomed from the start.
Also, don’t feel pressured to do something just because everyone else is doing it- especially getting married, do all that when you’re ready. It’s probably easier said than done, let’s face it, you go on Facebook and see all these people getting engaged and it can be a little overwhelming. But be smart about it. The older you get, the more that’s expected of you, and you’re constantly drowning in questions about your future. What’s going to happen when you graduate? What jobs are you applying for? Are you seeing anyone? It’s exhausting. I don’t know why we’re always being pressured to prove ourselves.
There is no point in time or age range that you must plan your future around and live by. Do what’s comfortable for you. Are you really supposed to finish school, be married, have a house, and have a steady job by the time you’re what, 25? No, you’re not. Certain people might like to, and that’s great, good for them. But there is no one path to success and happiness. It’s 2018 and there are so many more opportunities now then there were back in the day. Take advantage of that.
At the end of the day, we have our own personal goals and do what we want. I’m not trying to shame anyone in this post whatsoever. This was something that had been bothering me, and I’m sure others could relate to it.
If you’re married or engaged: congrats.
If you’re not: you do you boo.
If you’re happy and you know it: clap you hands.
In all seriousness, to whoever is reading this post, I hope you do everything you’ve ever wanted in this life, and I hope when you’re ready, you find the one you’ve been dreaming of.
Have you felt the same way? Let me know in the comments below!
This has been a chloscall.
Until next time,