I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about inner beauty lately. If you take a step back, you’ll notice that everyone focuses on outer beauty, as if what’s inside is obsolete. Fashion corporations, social media, society; no one cares if you have a heart of gold. As long as you look a certain way, their mind is already made up about you.
I remember in my psychology class, we studied about the effect that good looking people have on other people. It seems ridiculous but it was really very interesting. As humans, we find people with perfectly symmetrical faces attractive. And because we’re attractive, we expect more out of them. We expect them to be smarter, more capable, have a better job, etc. We want to believe that their life and their soul is as beautiful as we think they are. Alfred Hitcock perfectly depicts this in his 1960 film Psycho. In the original novel, the character that Norman Bates was a stout, balding perverted man. But when Hitchcock wanted to make the movie, he decided to cast the handsome Anthony Perkins as Norman Bates instead. Because of this simple change, people saw the relationship between Norman and Marion Crane (Janet Leigh) differently. Subconsciously, the audience wanted them to be together, they wanted to root for Norman and just believe he was troubled because of the small reason that he was attractive. Of course, I think the entire idea of Team Norman fades in final scene, where he slowly looks up at the camera with his mothers voice narrating that she wouldn’t even harm a fly. That creepy shit ought to have changed your mind real quick.
Another example would be cheating on your significant other. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how many times they say they are sorry. Once that trust is broken, it will never be repaired. Through all the apologies, sweet gestures and attempts to prove their love for you, they’re a different person now. Somehow they’ve become a stranger. They look differently, they laugh differently. It’s all upside down. And who knows, they could have been the most attractive person in the world but now that they have done such an ugly thing to you, it makes them ugly.
Looks are only going to get you so far in life. This is why personality matters. Physical beauty is obviously what first attracts you to one another, but the chemistry and connection is what is going to make the relationship work. And I don’t mean this to be entirely revolved around being in a relationship, it’s just an example. But if you want to be surrounded by good people then you yourself have to be a good person. Don’t focus on all the little shallow physical things. Just make yourself feel and look confident. Everything else will fall into place.
Until next time,